Top Ten Job Seeker Mistakes – #3

Mistake #3 is: “Do not get help when they need a counselor to help with sense of loss.

Wow! You put this #3 – more important as number 4? Why?

I am a career coach, not a trained professional counselor. We refer to counselors who know how to help those with sadness, a sense of loss, or depression caused by:

• Job Loss
• Dependencies
• Family relationship issues
• Death of a close party
• Close personal experience with life threatening circumstances
• Identity
• Failed dreams
• Failure
• Trauma
• Rejection, Betrayal, or Humiliation
• Emotional or Verbal Abuse or Neglect…

The reality is that all of us have or will go through these issues and have to deal with them. How we deal with them is either suppression, which eventually raises its ugly head, or by getting help from friends, or by getting help from church or a paid professional, or by deeper issues of depression which require medical attention.

When you experience these or similar situations, you should not ignore them. The need for help will exist. Who you should go to, whether help from friends, church professionals, paid professionals, or medical professionals, will depend upon the severity of your needs.

There are many techniques that can help you. But you need to be helped so that you can focus your energies on getting your next job.

Most men think they can help themselves. Going to a career coach hurts ones pride a little. Exposing their personal self by asking for help in these areas is far more difficult. Most men do not go to doctors until the situation is severe. If you need help, please get it. If you need to go to a doctor, please go.

The mistake is to think you can “suck it up” or “use positive thinking” to ignore the pain and its impact on you. I want your success. Please get the help when you need it.